MORE OF WHAT MY TRUE SELF KNOWS
My True Self knows this:
When our power appears to have been taken away in life through circumstances, destructive relationships, friendly suggestions that we use frizz control products in our hair (not offered by our hair stylist), traumas, challenges, inner battles, etc, some of us humans try to compensate by taking back our power (through all kinds of outer ways like aggression, pouting, gossiping, character assassination of the other person, overt and covert actions, power plays like stealing, drinking too much, eating too much, using illegal drugs, passivity, etc, etc, etc). HOWEVER, taking back our power from another person is NOT something we can actually do…because the truth is that it was NEVER gone in the first place.
Throughout history, it seems that society has persisted with the belief that its power lies outside of itself (me included…some moments more than others…did it a little this morning…seems that THAT tendency won’t be going away any time soon…nope!) WE CAN, HOWEVER, CHANGE THE AMOUNT OF TIME WE SPEND THERE THOUGH!
Believing that people and circumstances need to change for us to be happy does not make it true. And believe me, I have some circumstances happening in the lives of my loved ones (and consequently directly touching my life!!!) that would make your toes curl right now. The temptation to insist that circumstances/people/events change or happen a certain way so that I can be happy is an everyday temptation for me. And yet, I know that mind set never leaves me feeling free and empowered. When I catch myself saying, “I’ll be really happy when this is all over,” (or any number of versions of that), I know that I’ve fallen out of my true place of empowerment. So that’s when I choose to return to this bottom line: my individual recognition that my power cannot be taken away from me. Period. My power cannot be taken away unless I let it. I am my power. No one can take me from me. No one can take away my “I am.” The dignity of choice is mine at all times no matter what’s going on around me. From here, I can do fantastic things.
((A special note on powerlessness: Admitting powerlessness (a very useful concept in recovery from addiction or destructive behaviors/habits) is something ONLY I CAN DO, it cannot be done to me or for me…so even the power to admit powerlessness is still within MY realm of power…furthermore admitting powerlessness over a substance or person or circumstance does not mean I’m powerless over everything regarding my own personhood. In THAT way, admitting powerlessness can enhance and clarify what I do have power over!))
The way I see it, this is what it means to take responsibility for ourselves…not for every twist of fate that comes down the pike but for our reaction and response to those twists of fate that come our way. What’s more, the moment we accept reality (as opposed to fight it) is the moment we have the power to react and respond to reality differently. To start with, accepting reality is always a more peaceful allowing vibration than fighting with reality. And then a wondrous thing happens on its own: when our response and reaction to reality becomes more allowing, we have just changed our personal vibration for the better…which actually helps reality to match our peaceful change. This is our seat of power. We choose acceptance and responsibility (for ourselves) and, suddenly, we see that we have the ability to respond differently and the world responds differently too. It happens INSIDE first, then outside.
Furthermore, I’m not even saying that ‘blaming and judging others’ should be banished from the kingdom (because I don’t think they should!). More like, the moment we stop fighting with blame and accept responsibility for ourselves is the moment we reclaim our power. End that war with reality inside myself first and it seems to help those around me do it also…and then their vibrations change to allow their good! Which is a true joy to witness!
My True Self knows this. Even with an intense emotional experience (like say a job ending complete with crying, depression, massive amounts of buttered popcorn, an ill-timed spending spree…etc), the moment I can look at myself, my side of the street…what I am bringing to the table, I am empowered.
YOUR “OUCH” AND MY “OUCH” ARE EQUAL
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